Ever wondered how a simple 'thank you' can revolutionize your life? Coach Ratner here, and I'm thrilled to bring you an episode with the remarkable Corey Drucker, where we unveil the transformative power of gratitude and clarity. Together, we weave through our morning rituals, highlighting the psychological perks of starting the day with a positive stride. We reflect on the magic tucked into the ordinary – from the joyous bustle of family life to the often ignored marvels of our own bodies. Corey and I also offer a sneak peek into the art of preparation, sharing how a little nightly foresight sets the stage for a day steeped in focus and appreciation.
As our conversation meanders through the terrain of tradition and modernity, we pause to consider the profound impact of commercialization on sacred times, particularly Thanksgiving and the encroaching Black Friday frenzy. We juxtapose Abraham Lincoln's vision of a day for thankfulness with today's consumer-driven holidays, sparking a segue into the timeless teachings from the Jewish path to wisdom. Corey and I draw parallels between life's complexities and a child's learning process, musing on the shape of experiences and how they fit into the larger puzzle of our existence.
Closing on a note of reverence for relationship wisdom, we delve into the essence of successful partnerships through the lens of Torah teachings. Highlighting the significance of spiritual milestones and the bris ceremony, we explore the intersections of ancient customs and contemporary understanding. With anticipation, I share tidbits from my forthcoming book "Infinite Marriage," alluding to the richness of continuous growth within relationships. Join us as we journey through a tapestry of thought-provoking discussions, celebrating the heartwarming connection between life's rituals and the clarity that comes from living with gratitude.
Ever wondered how a simple 'thank you' can revolutionize your life? Coach Ratner here, and I'm thrilled to bring you an episode with the remarkable Corey Drucker, where we unveil the transformative power of gratitude and clarity. Together, we weave through our morning rituals, highlighting the psychological perks of starting the day with a positive stride. We reflect on the magic tucked into the ordinary – from the joyous bustle of family life to the often ignored marvels of our own bodies. Corey and I also offer a sneak peek into the art of preparation, sharing how a little nightly foresight sets the stage for a day steeped in focus and appreciation.
As our conversation meanders through the terrain of tradition and modernity, we pause to consider the profound impact of commercialization on sacred times, particularly Thanksgiving and the encroaching Black Friday frenzy. We juxtapose Abraham Lincoln's vision of a day for thankfulness with today's consumer-driven holidays, sparking a segue into the timeless teachings from the Jewish path to wisdom. Corey and I draw parallels between life's complexities and a child's learning process, musing on the shape of experiences and how they fit into the larger puzzle of our existence.
Closing on a note of reverence for relationship wisdom, we delve into the essence of successful partnerships through the lens of Torah teachings. Highlighting the significance of spiritual milestones and the bris ceremony, we explore the intersections of ancient customs and contemporary understanding. With anticipation, I share tidbits from my forthcoming book "Infinite Marriage," alluding to the richness of continuous growth within relationships. Join us as we journey through a tapestry of thought-provoking discussions, celebrating the heartwarming connection between life's rituals and the clarity that comes from living with gratitude.
This is the Living in Clarity podcast. I'm Coach Radner and we're here at Old City Radio Studios to film our latest episode, and we have a very special guest today, corey Drucker. It's great to see you, corey, corey Drucker.
Speaker 2:Great to be here. Thanks for having me today, corey.
Speaker 1:Drucker. Yeah, you know one thing about you. I'm very excited about you. Like Living in Clarity, don't you, corey Drucker? Very much so, corey Drucker. So tell me, what are some things in your life that you do that help you to live in clarity, corey?
Speaker 2:Drucker. You know, I think it has to start with waking up in the morning. You know it's. What are you waking up to do when you go to bed? You're making that checklist in the morning, or for the morning, to get up and do something. Corey Drucker.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Corey Drucker Right, so what are you doing? So what we do every single morning? That both of us and millions of other people. The first word out of our mouth in the morning is thank you.
Speaker 1:Corey.
Speaker 2:Drucker. Yes, corey Drucker. Right, it's not. I want this, I want that it's. Thank you.
Speaker 1:Corey.
Speaker 2:Drucker? Yes, corey Drucker. And so what are we living for? We're living to be thankful, corey Drucker.
Speaker 1:We're thinking, we're waking up in the morning, corey.
Speaker 2:Drucker, we're thankful, we're waking up in the morning, corey Drucker. But there's so much more to it than that.
Speaker 2:Corey Drucker. Yes, corey Drucker, right. So when something happens to us during the day, we can revert back to what we did. There's this great TED talk about making your bed in the morning, corey Drucker. Sure, corey Drucker, right, why do you make your bed in the morning? Because you succeeded in something that morning, corey Drucker. Yeah, corey Drucker. So when you go back and you start thinking about it with the human psychology does it reverts back to what happened earlier that day and then past experiences. But what's happening now is the first thing that you did is you're saying thank you.
Speaker 1:Corey Drucker. You know it's funny because my day is actually started the night before Corey Drucker.
Speaker 2:I hear that, corey.
Speaker 1:Drucker. I am set up the night before to be ready because in the morning I have to walk the dog Corey Drucker, for sure, corey Drucker, I go to Minion. I also have to make the lunches for my children Right now four children at home and I make their lunches. And I also make my wife and I like a fruit bowl. But I have two years of eating fruit bowls with some nuts and I sit a little syrup and salt. It's great for two years and I still love it because the fruit changes all the time.
Speaker 1:So the night before I make the fruit bowls I make sure that my kitchen is completely clean. I make sure I have in my mind what I'm making for all my kids or I write it down. I don't take the bread out of the freezer because I want the bread to be fresh when I heat it up in the morning, you know, for sandwiches. But I am prepared the night before before I even go to bed and I wake up in the morning and I say Mo De Anilif Le Necha. Thank you, hashem, thank you, god, for returning my soul to me. Thank you, I can wake up, I can make decisions, I can walk to the bathroom, all the holes which, by the way, most people take this for granted, that every hole you have in your body works the right way because it goes against gravity, like you know. You know gravity and they say, if you want to, you know water always finds the lowest point, you know.
Speaker 2:So we have holes and the water doesn't leak out, you know and, but not only that, if your body didn't function, or legs would be massive, because their legs would fill up with water, oh, you die, yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you die. Horrible yeah. So what else do you think?
Speaker 2:of whore. I think of whore Every single morning. I get to wake up and I look over and I have a brand new newborn. He's six weeks old right now. That's a tough, and it's just absolutely incredible to see him just passed out in his little crib that's attached to our bed.
Speaker 1:Aren't you waking up like at four in the morning?
Speaker 2:So, yeah, okay, just because I wake up and it's dark out, doesn't mean he's still not like the most beautiful thing I ever see Sure yeah and I wake up and I just get to see and just say like, wow, look at the life I have the opportunity to build right. Everything might not be working out the way I want it to be or the way I expected it to be, but I still get to be thankful for what I have right and get to look forward to the future. If we look in our past and we say, you know, it was yesterday a good day, you know what am I going to be doing here? It's not really the best way to live your life right, but if you're thankful, that means that you're thankful for everything that was in the past and everything is going to come up in the future and you get to actually live your life in the present. And I feel most people today there's such a hard time living their life in the present. Sure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they say, yesterday's past, tomorrow's the future, but today the present is a gift, is a gift, it is a gift and we have to live in the moment of the life that we're in whether it's good or it's bad, and that's the very hard thing that people have a hard time being thankful, having gratitude when things are going bad.
Speaker 2:I want to say, like there's a story of the Bach Shem Tov, and he says I don't know exactly, but that every bracha that we received and that we even daven for is there, waiting for us. It's just sometimes it's packaged in the present of a challenge and are you willing to overcome that challenge and then the bracha is right there for you. The blessing, the blessing.
Speaker 1:Maybe it's right there for you, maybe that challenge is going to help bring about that blessing that we have in our life For sure, and we don't see it, and that's part of it.
Speaker 2:Right, we don't necessarily know what is the best thing for us, but we know what we want and we know what we ask for, and so one of the things that we could work towards is say you know what? There's this challenging thing in my life. I want to overcome that and we can see what's on the other side. Maybe on the other side is everything I'm asking for.
Speaker 1:If there's a Gamora, ancient Jewish wisdom that says, for every bad thing that happens to you in life, something good is going to come from it For sure, and so this is why we should be thankful. Thank God for everything in our life that's good, obviously, obviously it's good. Don't want to take anything for granted. It's funny if you ask you know, when I teach classes to non-observing Jews, or non-observing people at all, and I say what's your favorite holiday? And I say not Jewish holiday what's your favorite holiday? And they'll say Thanksgiving. Why Thanksgiving?
Speaker 2:Because it's a day where everybody gets together and you're just surrounded by family and nobody's thinking about anything in the past or the future, and you're just eating and spending time together, that you don't have the opportunity to have any other day of the year because we don't make it a priority in our lives.
Speaker 1:This is why the holiday Shabbat, the Jewish holiday comes every single week. It's such an amazing day because it allows you to put everything else aside, all the accruements we have in our life, our cars and our businesses and our meetings and our birthday parties and our shopping and our internet use, and all these different things we have in our life. We put it aside and we spend a day with our family and our community and we get to thank God for everything that he's given to us. And it's hard to do this way. Thanksgiving is amazing because Thanksgiving, no one's planning meetings for Thanksgiving Day. I think a lot of these stores that were opening on Thursday nights decided you know, we're not doing this anymore for our employees and it's because what happened was Black Friday started and they started making it.
Speaker 1:I don't remember when I was a little Black Friday it wouldn't call it Black Friday. When I was little, the stores would open at 9 o'clock. We camped at the store and we'd be like, oh, let's open at 8, let's open at 3am and let's open the night before. Let's just destroy the holiday of Thanksgiving and have all people shopping. And it bothered me.
Speaker 2:I don't blame you. I think it bothered me too, because you're taking what an entire culture deemed as a holiday, something to be thankful for and get together as a family, and now you're separating the family unit again and you're saying your family's great and all and it's probably why you have a job to make money is to support this family of yours, and we appreciate it. But in the end of the day, come to work instead.
Speaker 1:Yeah, or hurry up and eat your dinner, finish watching the Dallas Cowboys game and get to Walmart.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:Get there, sasha, she can get the beanie baby whenever they're going to sell that year, that year's beanie baby, yeah, so it's amazing.
Speaker 1:Abraham Lincoln in 1863 made a proclamation and he said we're going to and you can Google this with a right by Google, actually and he said that every state in the union celebrated a day of Thanksgiving, but it was different days of the year in November. And he said we're going to make it the fourth Thursday of every November where the country can come together. He said we're going to thank the Almighty that our country, which was at war in 1863, was at war in Civil War, and we were very vulnerable at that time in our country's birth and we could have had another nation come in and destroy us and they didn't. And that we're going to have a day of thanking God. And that's what the day of Thanksgiving is about. And so he made it that particular day and it's people's favorite holiday. You know, if you're not Jewish, it's your favorite holiday, and if you are, unless it's Christmas or something, but if you are Jewish, it's still one of your favorite holidays.
Speaker 2:I even know a lot of people that aren't religious and they're like well, I don't want Christmas because it's too religious for me.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't think there's that much religion left in Christmas.
Speaker 1:No, it's become a really… it's not a Hallmark holiday, madison. Avenue marketing holiday 100% yeah.
Speaker 2:You know, I think we used to joke about this growing up, like at what point are they going to start selling the next holiday? Because you'd go October and Thanksgiving was it Halloween? Yes, and then November is Thanksgiving, and then December is Christmas, and then you have New Year's, and so every year we'd start seeing oh, halloween ended, let's go straight into selling Thanksgiving stuff.
Speaker 1:Well, Hallmark makes up holidays.
Speaker 2:That is very true, every day because they want to sell cars.
Speaker 1:Oh, it's Secretary Day, it's Mother's Day, it's Father's Day, it's the Most Appreciation Day.
Speaker 2:It's Most.
Speaker 1:Appreciation Day, it's Sister's Day, it's Daughter's Day, it's Son's Day, it's Daughey Day.
Speaker 2:The dogs, I'm sure dogs bring your kids to work day card lab or doodle day.
Speaker 1:I'm sure they're gonna specific days just for your type of dog. You love buying your dog a card at Hallmark right, exactly, yeah. So one of the ways that I get clarity in life Personally is when I was on my Jewish journey I was not raised on the observantly Jewish home. I started learning a concept Called the 48 ways of wisdom. Right now I'm sure you've learned this. Is that correct?
Speaker 1:Yeah the 48 ways of wisdom is taken from the Mishnah or Jewish oral Torah, and talked about the different 48 ways that you need to get wisdom in life to live with clarity. It's also a way when you're learning Torah for the first time in order to bring, or learning any sort of religion for the first time, to bring God into your heart.
Speaker 1:Yeah it's really hard to understand the concept of God when you never really lived a God-centric, focused life, and it helps to allow your heart to open up. And, by the way, I also think that this is also An antidote for people who are having a hard time getting married.
Speaker 1:Okay, because they're playing that word yeah, cuz I don't think they. I think they put blocks and they don't allow people to open. They don't open themselves up to allow other people to heart, because there's a specific. They have to be like this, like I did a whole podcast called you don't know your type until you meet your type. Okay, because people have their types here after me. Like, and you weren't like that, by the way.
Speaker 2:I was not like you were very open when you were dating 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah and when they get some of this wisdom in their life to understand joy. They understand fear, they understand what it means to listen one of the big, one of the big things in the 48 ways wisdom is listening. There'll be more open to allowing other people into their heart, you know, into their, into their, into their universe. I like to look at it as a Shape sort of shape sorter. If you remember when you're little and you have it like a, well, you have a howls you baby now six weeks.
Speaker 1:When they get to be about, you know, six, seven, eight months.
Speaker 2:Okay, start playing with shapes and yeah, yeah, I'll put them to the bin and I can't fit it in.
Speaker 1:You goes into the cube, and so the smart kids gonna take the lid off and just throw it in. And when you're and when you're in a dating world, you know you have your specific type. You have to have that fits into your life. Well, you have make it much harder in order to meet someone. So you got to take off that lid and get rid of that shape shorter and just shape sorter I can't say that word shape sorter. And the 48 ways helps you to To really bring to under life, yeah, sure.
Speaker 2:I also think you mentioned a really good point earlier, because you you said like To open your heart, right, and I think Especially in Judaism, it's it's very much about your heart and it's how you connect to people, that's how you connect to Hacham. But there's another aspect, which is your brain, right and Huzzal. The great sages back in the day say that the furthest point that a person has is from his mind to his heart.
Speaker 1:That was actually a rabbi Salon to her. So the greatest distance in the world between your brain and your heart is yeah and so, so.
Speaker 2:So something that we we also need to live with when we're living with clarity, we have to know the truth and know what we're doing and why we're doing it, and Then it's much easier to open our hearts. Because if we don't know why we're doing something, it's very hard to just go and do it right. Like there's some Jewish traditions and there's some you know, college traditions that they have and they're just like this is what we do, because we've done it for a hundred years, since the university was founded, and we're just gonna keep doing it and we don't know why or if we're doing it right anymore. Right, and there's something special and unique about Judaism that we've been doing the same thing for Thousands of years. No, I think it's a shame that a lot of people today have forgotten the why behind it and we're just kind of going about the motions.
Speaker 2:Well, if you don't know why you can't do the how. I Mean we have a lot to say. This is how you do it. Yeah, right, I mean, I don't know if it's the best thing for us.
Speaker 1:You don't know why. If when I, when I start learning Torah, I'm like I don't know the why, why would I want to do?
Speaker 1:I want to know why I'm doing these things now you know, we know there's certain things in Jewish law we don't know the why. Sure, a whole, the whole, the cause, folks, these are, these are, these are Commandments, misfas, that we people will make Answers for you. To give you an answer. For example, one of the big ones that's a hook is Kostrid kosher. Why do we keep kosher? Now, people, if you go ask your your neighborhood rabbi is gonna say well, because it keeps the Jewish people separate. They don't have to eat with the girl, you know, the non-Jews. Or it's because all the animals that are kosher are tame animals. There's no wild animals that are and they have special physiological features.
Speaker 2:That well, that's a different.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay okay, we're getting into area of of like proof of Torah, yeah, that we can go there.
Speaker 2:We can go there. I'm okay, babe, let's go, we're gonna go there.
Speaker 1:I am completely blown away about the concept because in some European countries now they've been trying to ban was called Sheetha sheetha is kosher slaughter yeah when and in the non-kosher world, when they killed an animal, they use electric stick.
Speaker 2:So you can either use electric stick, gas, a bolt gun yeah, you can use a whole plethora of Ways to to harvest your meat.
Speaker 1:Yes. So one of the ways they what the only way they do a shmeetha that's me to see the Rita. We're gonna be Schmeetha. Yeah, they have to have a sharp knife, a sharp knife with no nicks no nicks on it whatsoever and I don't know, I don't know the complete, all the details of that night either having gotten to that Camara yet, and they have to quickly cut the windpipe and the blood pipe of the animal now what's unbelievable?
Speaker 1:unbelievable is that every kosher animal I Should say this every non kosher animal has the, the vein that goes from their brain to the rest of their body in the back of the neck.
Speaker 2:It's two actually from understanding.
Speaker 1:Okay, two is one.
Speaker 2:It's an artery that goes from, like, their heart through the front of the neck to their brain. Yes, and the vein goes from the back of the neck To to the like, the rest of the body. There might be the opposite some like that so but they're not together not together.
Speaker 1:They're not together. Every kosher animal has those two veins. Yep next for when pipe right in front.
Speaker 2:So when they checked the animal, the best is the term that we use to kill the animal the animal doesn't feel it because the blood has now stopped flowing to the brain.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:Actually, they've ended studies, I think in Europe, to find what is the most humane way to kill an animal, and they attach the Sensors to these different animals yes, as they were killing them to see how long the spite of pain would be, and the only one that had zero Evidence of any pain was the kosher slaughtering.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's pretty. I know something I just learned that, like about a year ago, and I'm like I was blown away.
Speaker 2:We talked about that.
Speaker 1:But I don't. We talked about you much recently, but the so that's what's considered a hoax is we. It's a midst of, it's a commandment that we don't understand why we're doing.
Speaker 2:Yeah. I think, though, something something like going back to it to really bring a point out is you know, we're choosing to live a life and there's some things that we don't know why we do it, and and we're okay with it because we have this foundational piece to say I know the way I'm living is the best way I'm living. I think for a little like a side conversation that we could jump into again is what is the word Torah translate to? It means instructions, instructions. So what is God giving us? God gave Moshe Rabbeinu something called the Torah at Arsinai. Not sign on that sign I thousands of years ago, right. So what is he? If we translate it into English, that means that God gave Moshe a Book of instructions. Now, what? What are these instructions to?
Speaker 1:well, just like anything else you buy in the world, we just bought an air fryer nice, love it. Oh, my gosh game changer indication. Why even have an oven anymore? Right, we never air fryer? I'm like, why have I have a meat oven, have a dairy oven, like, just by like six air fryer, so you know like why have an oven, you say, even as a rice cooker, in it?
Speaker 2:for this country that's crazy.
Speaker 1:It's like we use it that makes the best french fries like the only a cell in this. Anyway, I use very little oil anyway. It comes with instruction manual, not that I read it.
Speaker 2:But I think the one with your phone. My phone comes instruction manual, computer comes instruction manual even like I mean maybe not, maybe a Us?
Speaker 1:what do you call when you peel vex to bowls? A vex will healer. That might not come with instructions, right, because that's kind of obvious and honestly it should, because I'm probably like their fingers.
Speaker 2:Hey, I've already done it Everything bit of your thumb and it comes right off and you're bleeding. Now you got it like it should come with the destruction.
Speaker 1:Everything in the world has instructions. Yeah, everything, everything. A car?
Speaker 2:Instructions for the instructions. Look, it's just like a car, right, it has an instruction manual and in the instruction manner to say, at 7500 miles you need to change your oil. How you do it is not in the instruction manual with their other instructions for that, or it's amazing.
Speaker 2:But it says, in order for you to get the most life and the most usage out of your car, you change the oil every 7500 miles, right? So what's this thing that the Mosher may not receive? He received an instruction manual for the human yes, the human. We are. In layman's terms, we're like a machine, in a sense right, we have certain things that function certain ways and most of us not running it very well either by the way, Most of us not running our human body very well, not just physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, like, and that's that you know.
Speaker 1:That's, by the way, that's stands for pies physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual that's my acronym for pies these all the time. Because if we don't let it run our life, how can we live the best life possible, how can we reach our potential life, how can we live with clarity? We can't. We can have an instruction manual.
Speaker 2:If you can't walk down the block without huffing and puffing, you're, you can't live the best life that you possibly can no. You know. So you have to get out there and you have to exercise. And there are all these people out there that are saying what, what's the best way to do it right? And it's like just get out and go, go for a walk.
Speaker 1:I get off top of some times, as you know, and I want to mention right.
Speaker 1:But we want to get back to this idea of we're talking about Schmita and Hoekse. But I want to talk about how, when I go and rent a car in them, when I rent cars now and it's freezing outside, I can't figure out how the turn their position. They're heating on Like it used to be. You had you dialed basically hot, cold, high, low, and now it's in an event. You just kind of adjusted yourself to close, open and move in your way, easy. Now it's like this whole system is a touch screen.
Speaker 2:I had a car recently up for just the last week in Orlando had the touch screen.
Speaker 1:I couldn't figure how to get it on and thank God. When I was in DC, one time was freezing, I had heated seats. I couldn't figure out how to eat on. I couldn't do it. It's too complicated.
Speaker 2:It's funny Something so complicated now yeah.
Speaker 1:Anyway. So we mentioned the idea of caution being a hope, being a myth. We don't understand, and there are lots of things that we do in our life we don't understand the thing you do in life, you don't understand that are not even religious or have to do with religion right.
Speaker 1:Let alone a lot of things we do like. You just had a brisk for your baby boy. I did A muzzle tub. I was there, it was very nice. Now what blows me away about this is that the Torah says that a baby boy has to have a brisk on the eighth day of his life.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:You've heard of this right.
Speaker 2:I think so. Yes, it's funny. So I have a friend.
Speaker 1:I have a friend, rabbi Chepulowitz, who's in Palm Beach Gardens, yeah, and he's a Mojol, he does brises, amazing, and he lives in a very, very Jewish area and he doesn't have that much business, because most people choose to have their baby circumcised at the hospital on the first or second of the day, which is ridiculous. There is a reason why the Torah says to have it on the eighth day. We don't understand it. It's probably again a hoax. It's a hoax.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But science has proved that a baby produces a certain vitamin, k Vitamin.
Speaker 2:K. I know very well. There's actually a vitamin K shot that they give kids nowadays to make sure that they have enough for the first few days of life, because they don't start producing it for your first day. We passed that one too.
Speaker 1:We passed that one.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying there is a shot.
Speaker 1:Everyone takes them short, Anyway. So science has proved that the baby produces very little vitamin K in its first seven days.
Speaker 2:So it's, I think it's like 10%, 30%, 40%, 50%, and it gets up to, on the seventh day, 100%. Vitamin K, yes. And the eighth day it gets the most human whatever have for all 120 years of their life yes. It gets to what they call 110%, which doesn't make sense to me. It should just be the eighth day is 100, and then you go back down to 90.
Speaker 2:And then it goes down to the average range of vitamin K that you have for the rest of your life until you die, sure, and that's only on the eighth day that that happens, that that occurrence is there.
Speaker 1:I was reading a Atheist website a number of years ago. A lot of those yes, and it said people asked that question.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:And the answers were mind boggling. People commented that the Jews are smart and they figured out through trial and error, trial and error that the eighth day was the healthiest day for baby to have a birth.
Speaker 2:You also know, though, my baby didn't have it on the eighth day.
Speaker 1:That's right?
Speaker 2:Why so? Why not? Because, unfortunately, he was a little sick, cheserzam. He was a little sick and we had a wait, I believe like three and a half weeks, to have to have his breasts. I think it was like three days before his fourth week of life. Okay, why? Why is that? Whatever it was, he was a little sick. We had to be in the the NICU for quite some time.
Speaker 1:How long?
Speaker 2:were you in the NICU for Three weeks and then a little bit, and then and then what Jewish law mandates is? Afterwards, after you get out, you get a clean bill of health from the doctor. Then you have to wait an additional seven days to make sure that the baby really is good, even though the doctor said he's fine, and then, after that, you can have the breasts. So so we did end up waiting. I think we waited about four weeks to have our breasts, and you know, to me it felt a little bit more special because it wasn't on the eighth day, and it was a very special moment. That being said too, it was, you know, not how it's supposed to be in a perfect world.
Speaker 1:So the world's not perfect, the world is not perfect and there are our leniencies and there are outs for certain things and situations like that, for sure, yeah.
Speaker 2:So, so it's, even if, even if we did trial and error, what happens when there's a sick baby, you know. At what point do you say, okay, go for it. How do you, how do you know that Jewish law has been set up for thousands of years? And when we were going through it, we're not going through it based upon trial? Sure, there was no trial. I mean Avramovino, when did he have his breasts?
Speaker 1:He had his breasts when he was eight years, 99 years old, I think he's okay, right, and so he's.
Speaker 2:he's this very old man, older than most people get today, and that's when he had his breasts. Right, it could have been at 99. We have a breast. It could be Ishmael. He had his bris at 13 years old. Yes, it could have been at 13. It would have been a challenge for us, but I'm sure most of us would do it at that point and it is a shame that a lot of people do it in the hospital and not have a really beautiful ceremony, sure, and a nice meal, and a nice meal.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think I'm extra lucky. I actually did my son's breasts.
Speaker 1:You did, you did. I always make sure when I go to a bris I'm kind of in the back of the room. I hear, I understand. I mean, I don't want to pass out, I was, I was right there, you know you did the bris, I did the bris.
Speaker 2:It was a very, it was a very moving experience.
Speaker 1:Yes, it really was. There was a moel there. Though there was a moel there Was it.
Speaker 2:Moshechaimid oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It was a very experienced moel that allowed me to do it Did you train on? Anybody? Did you practice on anybody? I packed this in my finger. This one's a little shorter now. No, we, I think we sat down for like five minutes a little bit before, maybe like an hour before, and he took out some latex gloves and he took the knife out and he's like we're not going to use this one because it might dull. I have a different knife.
Speaker 1:It's not even talking about anymore, because you just talk about it. I just practice it just.
Speaker 2:Practice makes perfect.
Speaker 1:For some reason the, the, the, the shchita, the killing of the animals didn't bother me, but, like the bris, the human aspect.
Speaker 2:I do get very queasy when it comes to human injuries.
Speaker 1:I'm queasy right now just talking about it.
Speaker 2:I'm here, that's fine, we can move back. Yeah, yeah, no, but there's, there's something very unique about Jewish law. You know they can, the atheists, whether they can say, oh, they're just very smart people. And you know, I think it was. I listened to something I think Jordan Peterson said to the average IQ of Ashkenazi Jews is 115, which is above. That means the average of us is higher than the average of pretty much every other person, because the average for humans is 100.
Speaker 1:I think they said the average for anti-Semite is 80. Okay, that's fair.
Speaker 2:Isn't that crazy.
Speaker 1:I read a stat that says 20 below the average human. I don't know the strokes. I don't understand the I don't know about that.
Speaker 2:I mean, are we gonna read it together if we want?
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I've been learning with my rabbi in the morning about the calendar, the Jewish calendar. So the Jewish year is lunar year. It's based on the moon, Correct?
Speaker 2:yep.
Speaker 1:And the moon cycle. People, if you ask what the moon cycle is, we'll say about 29 and a half days, but it's actually 29 days, 12 hours, 44 minutes and three and a third seconds. It's called a helic, right Yep. Three and a third seconds, and when?
Speaker 2:Hang on. How do we know that?
Speaker 1:Can we? Where does it come?
Speaker 2:from. Just say where it comes from. No, you just go ahead, please. It comes from a Gamara right and you're gonna go on to say NASA.
Speaker 1:Well, nasa, once they got the Hubble telescope up into space, they were able to, because it's always been like a second off with scientists.
Speaker 2:Right. Well, that's why the Gregorian calendar has every four years as a leap year to make up that time. No, that's totally. It's different. It's different. Was it the regular?
Speaker 1:calendar that we go on 365 days a year. It's actually 365 and a quarter days a year, so every four years we have to lose a day. Because we've gained Gain a day, we have to gain a day. We have to gain a day to make up for that two, four.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Right, you're correct, gain a day. So the Jewish calendar is based on lunar, and when they finally got Hubble into space and they were able to measure the I guess the lunar cycle at a much closer rate, it came closer.
Speaker 2:It's nice measurement.
Speaker 1:It's not exact, but it came closer to what the Jews have been doing for thousands of thousands Two minutes off their thing, two minutes a month.
Speaker 2:Or two minutes a year. Two minutes off no, for one cycle.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Like they have it like 29 days, 12 hours, and I think their minutes are just a little off. I don't know the difference, Something like that. It's incredibly close and we didn't have the Hubble telescope when this was written. We knew that this was a thing before it was written down, because that's how we had to establish our months. Yeah, that is a crazy thing because when you think about it, it's like how could we have known that?
Speaker 1:How can they set the calendar for thousands of years? How do they do that?
Speaker 2:Oh, the Adrikan, Esset.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the Adrikan Esset. 2,000 years ago they set the Jewish calendar for I don't know how long, maybe 6,000 years, and Tomaszinach, I guess, yeah, in 6,000 years they set it for and that is not wrong, they can keep going.
Speaker 2:They can keep going because I think how they set it up is, in a way, it doesn't repeat itself, it can repeat itself.
Speaker 1:It doesn't repeat itself every 19 years, or does it? I don't think so.
Speaker 2:It's when the Jewish day and the English day will line up. Every 19 years, every 19 years. So January 11th was on a Thursday and it was Giotet Teveth. Whatever it was In 19 years, january 11th will be on a Thursday. Giotet Teveths will also be on that.
Speaker 1:Thursday, something like that. I know it's a 19-year cycle for Leap Years. I know that cycle.
Speaker 2:No, it's more than that.
Speaker 1:No, no, we have a Leap Year and the Jewish calendar every Thursday.
Speaker 2:Two years, three years, it's three years, oh, on a Thursday, okay, okay.
Speaker 1:Three, six, eight, 11, 14, 17, 19. Right.
Speaker 2:And I want to give you something very interesting.
Speaker 1:This is kind of a deep idea here. Okay, we are in the eighth year of that cycle, which means in the Jewish calendar, because there's only 354 days a year in a Jewish year. Every year we lose 11 days.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:That is, get 11 days earlier, based on the Gregorian calendar. So there's a concept in Torah that the holiday of Passover, pesach, must be in the spring. Now, if we didn't set leap year, which means we have a leap year, we add an extra month of Adaran which pushes that calendar back 29,. Pushes back 30 days exactly 30 days yeah. If we didn't change. By the way, you know, if you look at the Muslims that have Ramadan.
Speaker 2:Oh, it could be any month of Easter.
Speaker 1:They don't adjust for calendar Cause they, their, their. Their calendar is based on solar and lunar no ours is based on solar and lunar.
Speaker 2:There's based solely on lunar. Okay, just on lunar, cause we have. We have a solar aspect to it.
Speaker 1:So, since that happens, ramadan, where they fast from morning to evening, can be anytime of the year, whether winter or winter.
Speaker 2:It could be in the summertime with 12 hour fasts and it could be in the wintertime with six hour fasts. Seven hour.
Speaker 1:So so the Jewish calendar, when we have to add that extra month in, we hit that 30 days, pushes Passover closer to the summer, which is this year. We're in the year that cycle. Two of those this is a little complicated Two of those leap years happen when there's only one break between a leap year this year.
Speaker 1:So the sixth year of the calendar with leap year the seventh year wasn't, which was last year. Now we're in the eighth year, which means we didn't get pushed back to 11 year day cycles, only one 11 day cycle, which means the holidays, especially Passover. It gets pushed closest to the summer. On the eighth year and the 19th year, the cycle which is closer to what they call Asav's summer Cause in the summertime and a Jewish calendar is when all the destruction of the temple happened, all the bad things, all the horrible things that Jewish people happened. In the summertime we have the nine day fast, the nine days of Nine days of mourning and mourning. With the three weeks we don't do danger things. We have Tisha Bob, we have the 17th timers and that holiday of Passover, which is redemption for the Jewish people.
Speaker 1:Right, it's closest to the Asav's summer which, when a lot of things happen I haven't done more research on this by no other 1948 war in Israel happened that year, I know. In the eighth year, on the eighth year, or eighth or 19th year, I don't know 1967, more happened the 2003 explosion of Guzhtatif in Gaza Strip, which really led to this war here, like you know pretty much. And what year are we?
Speaker 2:in.
Speaker 1:We're in the eighth year, right we're right now we're in eighth year. It happened eighth year In fact. It happened only cause it was Sukkot.
Speaker 2:It was no, it happened like three weeks after the eight years, it's not three weeks after it started.
Speaker 1:It's year started yeah, the war that we have now. So it's really strange in Jewish history. We look at the eighth and 19th year and bad things happen.
Speaker 2:I'm sure we can get into this eventually.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's a lot.
Speaker 2:Is time a line or more like a coil? Right Cause if time is more like a coil than events are repeating.
Speaker 1:Life does repeat. So I mean who ever thought? And I don't wanna focus as no, that's way too much I don't know like how much hate there'd be in the Jewish people. Like the Holocaust is gonna happen again. Like you kidding me, look we have a slogan.
Speaker 2:We have a slogan for it and it says never again. Right, september 11th had a slogan never again and the Holocaust never again. I'm sure there are other things that have happened that we say never again. How often do eerily similar events actually happen like that?
Speaker 1:I think they kinda do happen.
Speaker 2:Even though we say never again and everything like that, it still happens, as much as we don't want it to.
Speaker 1:Let's get into a little bit of this 48 ways of wisdom on the talk about this before we end this podcast. So lots of concepts. By the way, this book, if you wanna get some clarity in life. This book's called the 48 Ways to Wisdom. It was written by. The concepts are written by Rabbi Noh Weinberg, the founder of Ishetora, but it's written by Rabbi Cooper Smiths and Rabbi Simmons, who are still with us today and who are very, very popular speakers and authors, and some of the things that these 48 ways of wisdom have in it are talks about effective listening, understanding the heart, the power of all.
Speaker 2:The pursuit of happiness. The pursuit of happiness.
Speaker 1:Yeah, mastering fear, humility, joy, purity, serving the wise, examining ideas with friends, trusting wise men. Trusting wise men, making yourself a coach. They say it called make yourself a rabbi, but really it's making yourself someone and, by the way, this is such an important thing in life. I just can't believe that most people go into a situation the biggest decision they're gonna make in their life is what Marriage, who they're gonna marry. Yet most people don't go into it with a someone to guide them, a clear head, someone to guide them Rabbi, a Rebson, a priest, someone, a parent, to help guide them to make the right decisions in life.
Speaker 2:I don't believe that. I think we're very blessed in the sense that we go through like hustle and training.
Speaker 1:Oh, and the teams training In the Torah world. You're trained. You're trained to be a good husband.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, and you know. This wisdom has passed down for thousands of years. If you're not, you're going to the wrong, yeshiva.
Speaker 1:No, you gotta be trained.
Speaker 2:No, it's not even that You're going down the wrong path of life. Sure, right, because it's like, how are you supposed to know what to do in XYZ situation? Whenever it comes up? It's going to come up, you're going to get into an argument, but it's how you resolve that argument, right, and so if you were trained a little bit before and you had conversations beforehand of saying, like something like this is gonna happen and we wanna already, like, have it set up, you know, this is what to expect and here are ways in which you can talk to help, like, mitigate what's going on and Work it. So it's not you versus your wife, but instead it's you and your wife versus the problem. Sure, right, and so there's about we not me.
Speaker 2:All right, exactly, and it's just very Crucial for a lot of relationships, right, what's the divorce rate in America now?
Speaker 1:That's 60% 60%.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if someone said, listen, you can't get out of this marriage, once you get into it, the war is going to be much less sure. But also, you look at the Catholic Church, they have, I think, the most amount of marriage therapists because they can't get divorced sure right, and so they're divorce rate zero Because they can't do it, but also they have some of, like, the top Marriage therapists in the world because they need to do it, and so they're starting to look at this Jewish wisdom of these like Hassan and Kala classes.
Speaker 1:So I've had a customer collar or group bright and bright and green, bright and green, and and how to?
Speaker 2:how to have the best and most successful relationship. That's for sure.
Speaker 1:I like to teach those classes you do. I would like to. I mean, I love teaching about marriage there. Yeah, I got a book coming out heavy classes, infinite marriage Okay, for phases of loving relationship will be out through Mosaic a press in the spring of 2023.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:Well, to do an episode on that also for sure, absolutely.
Speaker 1:Anyway, I was one of the touch base. Touch a little bit, but it's pretty ways with it. We're gonna get into it now, but I'd like to maybe fill some podcast with you based on some of these ideas. Let's do it getting into today because Effective listening, which is such an important thing about relationships have a listen to somebody, what it means to listen to somebody Understanding at heart what you really want in life and living your life for that purpose. You mentioned earlier in the podcast.
Speaker 1:If you don't know the why, how can you do the how? What's my purpose in life? The power of awe and one of my favorites, joy, living with joy. You know, can't imagine why it's your favorite, I don't know why, I just is one of my favorites. Living with joy. You find joy in everything in life.
Speaker 1:You know I was in the, I was flying home from Miami a few weeks ago. Okay, and and when you fly from Miami I think it leaves at one o'clock in the afternoon and like about two hours in the flight you get your dinner, the evening dinner, and then you sleep and then you'll hopefully you sleep. Well, not from Miami, you don't. And I was. I was in the sitting next to two people and I. The guy says how's the food? I go, it's great. And the woman's next, I guess his partner and him's like what do you mean it's great. I'm like I'm sitting at like 35,000 feet, going 600 miles per hour, an aluminum tube, and some woman brings me a hot meal and a drink what's not there, to like I mean like kind of food's not great. When I was fine, I don't care, I'm happy.
Speaker 2:No one's expecting a five-star restaurant, no, but it's good and that food is good, I mean yeah pretty good I've got they've gotten pretty good at making you know this, this airplane food. I think the best thing about the airplane food, yeah, is when you order a kosher may get a first. So you get. I know you're basically done with your meal by the time I even get there.
Speaker 1:No, it's a good thing to be happy when they're all coming through sure sure. Well, Cory's been great having to show them excited. I'm sorry you know, you just got married. What? How long ago? Six months ago?
Speaker 2:a year ago first baby.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and Life's like you're in the middle of the best part of life.
Speaker 2:Yep.
Speaker 1:And we want to get the wisdom from you that can help people live with clarity in life, because that's what I want from every but all my listeners. My goal for this podcast is for you to reach your potential in life, and all aspects of life. Now has to do with other relationships, dating, marriage, finance, spirituality, self-esteem. All the things are very important for people to be happy and I hope that we can. You know, with your help, we can help bring that clarity to our audience.
Speaker 2:I really hope so.
Speaker 1:All right, this is coach right there on living clearing podcast.
Speaker 2:Thanks for listening and we'll see you next time See you next time, folks, you.