The Coach Daniel Ratner Podcast

Your Goals Aren’t Lazy, Your Process Is

• By Coach Daniel Ratner

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We explore why most people stall on big goals and how to lower friction so action becomes simple. We connect imperfect starts to faith, resilience, and healthier relationships, and we commit to short, consistent episodes that turn inspiration into action.

• breaking big goals into smaller steps
• choosing momentum over perfection
• faith and self-belief during trials
• dating and marriage without the myth of perfect
• gratitude over chronic criticism


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Have you ever had a hard time in life accomplishing something? Have you ever had a hard time getting out of bed and just getting something done, trying to achieve your goals? And maybe, or it's possible, that your goals are just difficult, and because they're so difficult, you never get anywhere? Well, instead of making your goals easier, make it easier to get your goals. Which means breaking down into smaller pieces. Find a way to get there that's going to be simple, maybe not the way you want to do it, but sometimes doing something is better than nothing. It's been, oh gosh, a few years since I have done a podcast that's that's just me and the computer. Most of my podcasts have been me at classes at H Essentials or at Orsamach or at Olami. And I have someone come and film me and do the video and the audio. And that's fine. But I'm speaking to people in the room, not people in the audience. Or I just read my books. Yeah, a little bit out of laziness. I wrote a book, which is not lazy. I mean, it takes a long time to write a book. But I put all my focus into the books. I'm like, you know what? Just read the books. And thank God a lot of people have listened to them online. But I think I was inspired this morning just because you go through phases in life. You know, one of them focused on my books, and I write the books, and then I'm focused on my classes. And Barokasham, I get to teach a lot of different places, and seminary, isheshiva. This week Nivei, Orismeach, sometimes Pierkasat Torah, sometimes other places. And I think I need to get my voice out there. I think I have a lot to give to the world. Thank God. Not that I'm trying to monetize it or anything like that, although it'd be great if you bought my books. But I think that I need to start doing some of these podcasts. Um I think that would be a good idea. And how do you make your goals easier? Is basically, you know, just doing this. For example, you know, it's been when I used to film podcasts, I had a got a cameraman and a room. You know, being in Jerusalem is not a lot of space. I didn't have a podcast studio. For while I did, that made it really easy. That's when I did most of my podcasting. And then get the and get the interviewers, people interview. So I said, you know what? I have a computer. I have, you know, audacity. I can record here and just post it 10 minutes, a few times a week. Bring people some inspiration. Inspiration is great, but if you don't bring it to action, it doesn't mean anything. So we're going to call it inspiraction. So how do you how do you make your goals easier? How do you make it an easier way to reach your goals? Well, just doing something is better than nothing. In this situation, sure, I'd love to have a, you know, a cameraman or film myself, then I got to edit it. And it's going to be harder. I'm less likely going to do it. So sometimes you, if you find the easy way, the easy path to get what you want, sometimes it's better to take the easy way, even though in the end, obviously, you know, it'll be harder later, but at least you're starting something. People don't do anything in life because sometimes just they feel like if they don't do it the right way, the perfect way, they're not going to get, they're not, you know, they might have um, you know, perfectionism. And that perfectionism leads to procrastination because they're not doing anything. Because they think if it's not perfect, why should I try it all? And that's not the way to live life. Sometimes when we try things and they're not perfect, that's how we learn to make it better the next time. Because if you don't try it all, you're never gonna learn anything. And the Jews went through the desert. We left Egypt. That's that was a lot of trials for them. You had 40 years of trials. And the worst part was when they had to complain when they complained. And of course, you know, God wasn't happy about it, he threatened to destroy them. And Moses had to save the Jewish people by begging and pleading, what are you gonna do? Take the Jews out of Egypt and kill them in the desert? You think God's gonna put you in this Urus? He put us here because he thought, not thought, he knew that there's greatness inside each of us. I mean, this is why he took the Jews out of Egypt. Because he saw greatness in them. He'd taken other nations out of Egypt and gave them the Torah. But he didn't. He took the Jews. And the greatest transformation you'll make in your life is when you believe in yourself as much as God believes in you. And you know what? Sometimes that means trying something and not being perfect. Because you wait for perfect, you're waiting for nothing. Nothing will happen. There's a big issue in dating. A lot of people, you know, want to wait for that perfect match. Oh, he's perfect, oh she's perfect. There's no such thing as perfect. That doesn't exist in a relationship. If you think your spouse is perfect, you're in infatuation, you're not in love. Everyone has flaws. I'll make this podcast. It's gonna have flaws. I'm not gonna correct them. Because once I start editing it, then it's an extra step and I'll probably not do it. So it's okay if I cough, it's okay if I say the wrong thing. It doesn't have to be perfect. But sometimes if we sit around waiting for it to be perfect, nothing's gonna happen. I don't want that from my students. I teach my students that uh, you know, I want to be great in all aspects of life. Personal growth, self-esteem, marriage, dating, wherever they're at in life. You need to have a coach sometimes. You need to have someone that listens to you and understands you and gets who you are. Because everyone's different. And this is why when you give an answer to someone who's asking for help, the same same, you know, stomp answer to everybody, it's not always right because everyone needs to hear different things. You have to figure out what this person needs to hear at this time in their life. You know, sometimes it's not easy to get out of our comfort zone. We can we confuse it with being familiar and easy, and it's not. It might it might seem that way until you get out of it and realize, you know what, this wasn't healthy for me. I think, you know, for me, getting out there and speaking on a podcast is probably healthy for me. And I think, you know, Bur Hashem, I think it can help a lot of people. So we're gonna start these probably twice a week, three times a week. We'll see what happens. A short podcast on some inspiration, on basically how you can become a better person, have better self-esteem, have better relationships, maybe make some more money. And then we can go somewhere in life. We have to believe in ourselves. We do. We have we have to believe that God put us here for greatness. And if we still, you know, procrastinate and not start because we're afraid that we're gonna fail or not be perfect, we're gonna, we're gonna go nowhere. This is why you see a lot of guys and girls too, probably in their 40s and 50s, never married, because they never find the right person. You know, make yourself into a vessel that someone's gonna want to marry. And you'll attract the person that you said that you that you you'll attract the person that you send out those vibes for. Make yourself into a vessel that is able to love themselves, love others, and be happy and be resilient. But sitting around waiting for that perfect guy or is not gonna go anywhere. You sit in a long time. I don't think that's I don't think it's on purpose for creation. Six days of creation. The last thing God does is make uh make a wife for Adam. She's the soulmate of Adam. They're soulmates. Not partners, they're soulmates. They share the same soul. And their souls aren't perfect. But they believe in each other, they love each other, they listen to each other, they support each other, they don't criticize each other. The Jews criticized in the desert, that didn't work out so good. Forty years later, it was eight spies who had to criticize Israel, criticize the the fruits, and criticize the the walls and criticize the people. How'd that turn out? Be happy with what you have in life. It's all good for you. Anyway, we'll see where this goes. Don't make your goals easier. Keep those goals. Just find easier ways to get to those goals and you'll go somewhere in life. If you like this podcast, please like, save. Let me know, send me a note at coachratner gmail.com if you want to keep doing them. If you have any ideas, and thanks so much. I'll see you next time.